So many things about heterosexual relationships are very foreign to gay couples. I’m often in fits of laughter at the expression on my gay friends faces when particular subjects are raised.

Sure, for many, I imagine this position is very pleasurable. For me in a heterosexual relationship, it’s not a position I’ll volunteer for. Personally, it’s not the most comfortable or the most pleasurable.

'Why?'

Yes, good question, one my female gay friend regrets asking instantly.

Quite simply, I’m short, 5ft 2inches. And I believe that my vagina depth is proportional to my body. Doggie style is direct access to getting in as far as you can, and (for men I feel like) often as hard as you can. I’m not a fan of the slang phase ‘hitting the back wall’.

However, here is the interesting part, if I’m not ‘in the mood’, ‘interested’ ‘stimulated’;

1. there is not a chance I’m going to climax &
2. I literally just want this over and done with so he can ‘blow his load, roll-off and go to sleep!'

Doggie style it is!

My gay friend's response is #WTF!

Yes, it’s true, WTF. I agree.

(In my experience) When you’re in a same sex relationship, the other person isn't nagging you for sex, they don’t make you feel bad for not being in the mood.

Heterosexual relationships don’t work that way! Well, none that I know of! (we should do a poll)

Telling my friend that I've used sex in my heterosexual marriage as a means to get what I wanted. A camera, sewing machine, new clothes. Now to be clear I know this is a form of bribery or manipulation, from both sides. But for many women, it's part and parcel of your relationship.

Why do we allow this, accept it, how has this become an ingrained part of our way of life?

Hetero-normative BS!