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Providing Oral Pleasure to Penis Owners

Your Questions … 

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Did you read our previous article on Oral Sex Safety? That is a really important first piece of understanding oral sex! 

Today, we’re going to focus on giving oral sex to penis owners and how to make your sucking game strong! 

Also known as “to go down on,” “felatio,” “head,” “third base,” “a mouth hug,” “lip service,” and a “sloppy toppy” the classic blowjob is known by many names. 

***Inclusion Awareness*** In this article we are going to be using the words “his,” “he,” “man,” and other associated cisgendered, heteronormative words to refer to penis owners. We do NOT intend to do this as a means of exclusion of anyone who owns a penis but identifies otherwise. It is 100% for simplicity’s sake and we deeply apologize if we have upset any of our readers. If you find this in any way offensive, please let us know. We want everyone to feel equally loved and celebrated.

Everyone is different so don’t be surprised if your penis-owner-partner has more ideas for upping your game! Don’t be shy, ask how you can improve (if you want to)!

There are a few things that may seem obvious in this part for the seasoned sexual out there, however, they are often easy to forget! 

The single most important thing to remember throughout all of this is:
Enthusiasm and confidence are key.

Even if giving head isn’t your favourite thing but you want to try, put on your acting cap and try and have fun with it! 

Things like making eye contact, wiggling your butt and acting thirsty for his penis can often be the hottest part!

Also, ask him what he wants while you’re doing it, a simple “do you like that?” or “Is this wet enough for you?” is not only thoughtful but a great opening for you to learn more about his pleasure preferences!

Take your time

Not only with the actual blowjob, but with the lead up to it! 

Providing oral sex to penis owners is usually an intensely pleasurable experience they don’t want to end too soon. 

Take your time leading up to even touching the penis, try kissing or running your tongue from his mouth down his body. Gently licking and (extremely gently) nibbling on erogenous zones as you make your way down there.

Certain areas that can be extremely pleasurable include (but are never limited to): the neck, the ears, the collar bone, the inner wrists and arms, the fingers, the inner thighs, the entire genital area, ankles, toes and so much more! 

***Pro-Tip*** If you are unsure of what places turn on the penis owner, ask! They’ll probably be delighted you did. 

Remember, building up anticipation is so sexy.

Getting to the Genitals

Once you have arrived at your desired destination, make sure you have taken any necessary safety measures. If you are unsure, please see our previous article on Oral Sex Safety for some advice. 

***Pro-Tip*** This is a great time to observe the penis, in all its glory, but also to check for anything that may be a symptom of an STI. Keep your eyes open and pay attention to the details

Of course, you can get right to it and slide that beautiful banana inside your mouth, which is *really* hot, however, try a few of these ideas as well to mix things up:

• Start by caressing his testicles (balls) and his thighs long before you ever touch his *member*
• Lick around the base of his penis, alternating between a soft and firm tongue as well as strokes in different directions almost like a tongue massage
• Run your tongue around his balls, potentially even putting them in your mouth if you’re into that! Gently sucking on and licking the testicles can bring intense pleasure to a penis owner! 
• Use your hands as well! You can start caressing, stroking or even providing a hand-job while you’re stimulating other areas 
• You can get the perineum (space between the testicles and the anus) involved from the start as well by gently pressing the ball of your fingertip on the area
• If you’re both into it, you can also slide on a finger condom with a bit of lube and either massage his anus a bit or pop your finger in that sphincter! The anus contains tons of nerves which are a huge turn on for a lot of penis owners! If you want some help on this, check out our article on Prostate Play 

The Oral Approach

Despite being called “blowjobs” most men do not want their penis to be blown on. A penis and a balloon have very little in common. It’s more of a “suck-job” when you think about it. 

***Pro-Tip*** If you’re worried about his taste or would rather pretend it’s a wonderful strawberry lolly, add some flavoured lube to improve your experience as a provider!

There are an infinite number of ways to get that penis in your mouth other than just shoving it in. So be creative! Some great tips and tricks are:

• Licking the tip and the shaft slowly and seductively for a minute or two, then shoving his penis as far down your throat as possible, in a quick, delicate and surprisingly sexy way. You’ll definitely see his eyes bulge! 
• Start with only paying attention to either his shaft or the head of his penis, alternating soft and firm pressure with your lips and tongue before putting the penis all the way into your mouth
• Keeping your tongue out of the game for a little bit at first and focusing on the pressure your lips provide as well as a gentle sucking sensation is a great way to get started
• Keep your hands involved! Wrapping a hand around the base of his cock while you’re sucking is a great way to bring him to climax quickly. Please, do not forget about the balls and perineum! For the balls, gently cup, stroke or tease them while you’re providing oral pleasure. Using the pad of your fingertip to press on the perineum is a great way to get some non-penetrative prostate play in the game! 
• If you’re both/all into anal activities, consider using our prior tip of slipping a finger into his anus for additional pleasure
• Remember that the underside of the head of the penis is a very sensitive area! Pay attention and run your tongue along it, around it, whatever you both enjoy! Stimulating this area is going to be a great addition to your mind-blowing oral game

Keep alternating the pressure you provide from your tongue and lips on the penis, many penis lovers suggest mouthing the word “purple” to keep this rhythm going. 

These are just a few tips to help get you started. Once you’ve found a rhythm that you’re both enjoying, keep at it! Just remember to keep things wet, safe and sexy. 

That is 100% up to you, your comfort levels and what you’re into. Many penis owners love the idea of their partner swallowing; however, it puts you at an elevated risk of getting an STI. Also, sometimes semen isn’t the tastiest. 

If you’re more of a spitter, prepare a bit beforehand and make sure you have tissues and some sort of beverage to gargle. 

If you’re a swallower, we suggest enthusiasm in the face of the unknown! It may not taste delicious; however, a little acting may go a long way in his evaluation of your blowjob game (if you care about that.) 

***Pro-Tip*** If he’s about to ejaculate, try and angle the head of the penis either into the inside of your cheek, which can act as a reservoir or towards the back of your throat for minimal interaction with the taste. Try and be prepared because this is the time your gag reflex is likely to crop up!

If you’re not into the idea of semen in your mouth, you are not alone. Either let him cum in the condom without any extra effort (assuming you’re using one, and we hope you are) or remove the condom and let the jizz fly! He can clean it up afterward. 

Some penis-owners are turned on by the idea of ejaculating in other places, like on the breasts, the stomach, or other “targets” on is lover’s body. If you’re into it, talk about it! 

We have so, so much more to say about this topic, our sexy friends. However, that’s all we have for today. 

What do you think?

 What is your favourite blowjob tip?

 What has been your best oral sex experience? 

 Do you have a favourite condom or lubricant choice for oral sex?

We want to know! Drop us a line in the comment sextion below! 

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Feeling like you want to return the favour? Continue reading here for eight mind-blowing cunnilingus positions that will leave her wanting more and more of you. 

Get out there, get in there and get off there! 

Elaine S. Turner

Sex Coach, Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator

Sydney, Australia

August 2020

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