Does Size Matter?

How Does Your Penis Stack Up?

Your Questions … 

What is the average penis size?

What is the ideal penis size?

How do I measure my penis?

Does size matter?

Does it matter if I’m a “grower”, not a “shower”?

Answered.

One very common worry of male-bodied people out there is that their penis is not up to snuff. 

We are constantly bombarded with advertisements for various supplements telling men that they need to have bigger, harder and thicker dicks. The real question here is: does size really matter? 

While we don’t want to encourage our sexy friends to start comparing their penis size to others, we’re happy to help you settle the debate on how to measure your penis, in case you’re curious. 

We suggest using a fabric tape measure so you can learn your girth (width) as well. 

Take the end of the measuring tape and put it at the rounded top of your penis, or the end of the glans. Guide the tape all the way down your shaft to your pubic bone. If you’re not circumcised, don’t include any extra foreskin in the measurement.

 If you’re not erect at the time of measuring, then you know your flaccid length. If you want to get yourself a little bit excited and measure again, you’ll be surprised at the difference in length! 

***Pro-tip*** No matter what you measure you’re actually missing an extra two to eight centimetres! Your penis extends into your body into the perineum, the space between your testicles and your anus. So, you’re bigger than you think!

To find out your girth, measure around the middle of your shaft or the base of the penis 

A famous study conducted in 2014 by the British Journal of Urology International of over 15,000 men from around the world to answer this very question. The study found that the average erect or hard penis was 13.12 cm in length, whereas the average flaccid, or non-erect penis is about 9.16 cm (Veale, Miles& Bramley 2015)

Another fascinating statistic from this study showed that a 16 cm erect penis is actually quite rare! Out of every 100 men, only five of them would have a penis larger than 16cm.

That’s a far cry from what we “learn” in porn!

Another important pebble of knowledge is that there is no correlation between the size of a flaccid penis and the size of an erect penis. 

So, if you’re a grower or a shower, you won’t be able to tell from a non-erect penis! 

Time and time again, studies show that men care far more about the size of their penis than their female-bodied partners do. It is actually a massive source of anxiety for men out there. 

***Pro-Tip*** If you’re worried your penis isn’t large enough, it could have a negative impact on your sexual performance due to anxiety. Stay positive!

These feelings of inadequacy come from all around us and are hard to shake off. 

In another study on “small penis syndrome” found that the majority of women, about 85%, remained satisfied with the size and proportion of their partner’s penis. 

Of the men surveyed, about 45% of them believed they had a small penis, which held no correlation with their true, measured sized.  (Wylie & Eardley, 2017)

In another study, women were asked to choose an ideal size penis between four different 3D printed models. For long-term sexual partners, women went with a smaller model rather than the model that was based on a larger than average penis. The female’s ideal size often coincided with the average penis length. 

So, it seems that men care much more about penis size than women do. 

Another thing to consider here is what men are usually hoping to stimulate during penetrative sex. That would be the much-debated G-spot (more on this another time.) 

Considering the fact that the G-spot is located only about two and a half to eight centimetres inside of the vaginal canal your guy should be up to the task. Usually, it is the head or glans of the penis going in and out of the vaginal canal that stimulates this. 

Also, don’t forget that roughly 80% of women can only experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation, therefore size has absolutely zero impact on the orgasmic capacity of your lovemaking. 

If you’re still worried about being “big enough” for your current partner(s) or future partner(s) consider brushing up on the Kama Sutra and learning some new positions that will maximise your penis’ pleasure potential. 

So, what is the moral of the story? Stop comparing your penis with others – especially with the ones shown in pornographic films. Relax, big guy. You’re doing great. If you want to be a better lover, educate yourself rather than trying to change yourself physically. 

What do you think?

Do you feel like your penis isn’t big enough?

How does your partner feel about your penis? 

What have you “learned” about penis size from pornography? 

How has this made you feel about your size?

Feel free to respond in the comments below!

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Get out there, get in there and get off there!

 Elaine S. Turner

Sex Coach, Clinical Sexologist & Sexuality Educator

Sydney, Australia

August 2020

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